How to be friends with a borderline

Today on my newsfeed was an image about International Friendship Day. Only several hours before I had been writing a letter to a friend explaining how they had hurt me. A letter that was written for therapeutic reasons, rather than the intention of sending it. After seeing this message regarding International Friendship Day I broke down. Here I was writing about ending a friendship on … Continue reading How to be friends with a borderline

Grieving for someone who is alive

Her smell, her embrace, her laugh, her seriousness, her favourite colour, her jewellery, our jokes, our late night sleep overs. I remember how much I loved her, how intensely I needed her acceptance, validation and her friendship. I remember making promises of a life time of friendship and jokes of being an “aunty” to her children. I remember how afraid I was of losing her… … Continue reading Grieving for someone who is alive

“You should be locked up and the key thrown away”

Trigger Warning Two weeks ago, I was confronted by a fellow Aussie. He told me “That I am crazy and, should be locked up with the key thrown away”. Initially, when I read the comments it felt like my soul had just been trampled on. And I started to question myself. AM I? SHOULD I BE LOCKED UP? Moments later I felt a deep sadness … Continue reading “You should be locked up and the key thrown away”

Discriminating group therapy leader

I find it so frustrating when people compare their mental illness to BPD like we are in different classes. Arnt, we are all mentally unwell? When you are in groups and someone talks about BPD and the comments are “oh people with BPD they are so mentally ill, you can’t reason with them.” “They are manipulative, they don’t want to get better or care about others.” Me … Continue reading Discriminating group therapy leader

Occupational Therapy and the PD Stigma

This is an open letter to colleagues far and wide, in the UK and across the pond. With an estimated 1 in 4 adults having a diagnosable mental health condition, chances are not only will a portion of your caseload have a mental illness, but there’s odds that so will some of your colleagues. I am 1 in 4. You would think that, given our … Continue reading Occupational Therapy and the PD Stigma

When you judge me, do you judge you?

Judement is such as easy thing to do. I would say it is an automatic thought that helps us feel better about ourselves at the expense of another. Often this judgement comes from people who are suffering and see themselves poorly. How do I know? Because I was a judger. I judged everything and everyone. Partly my anxiety makes me think the world hates me. … Continue reading When you judge me, do you judge you?

I have Borderline. Hear me ROAR

So today for the first time I shared briefly to my third years I have Borderline. We were discussing how violence and trauma can present itself in multiple ways and result in mental illness, drug use, self harm and alcohol misuse … They already know I am a mental health advocate. And who knows! some might be following me on here. But A room full … Continue reading I have Borderline. Hear me ROAR

From dependant to independent – Creating your own Identity

It’s time to go it alone – strategies to go from co-dependence to independence My whole life I’ve wanted connections. To be liked. To be someone’s best friend and to never be alone. The danger with this is that I’ve moved from one dependant relationship to another dependent relationship my whole life. Never having my own identity. For a year now I’ve been mourning the … Continue reading From dependant to independent – Creating your own Identity