My distress checklist for Carers, Partners, Family and Friends

Being in a relationship with someone who has BPD is hard. It requires a lot of thinking on your feet. A lot of open communication and forgiveness on both sides.
I frequently get angry at my husband when he says or does something that is triggering for me. It takes a lot of trial and error to work out those triggers. It takes understanding that “silly triggers” such as him “slamming the microwave door” can send me into the flight, fight or freeze mode. In these situations, my husband and I use this framework to know what to do next. I have also sent this framework to several loved ones so they too are knowledgeable in helping someone in distress. Continue reading My distress checklist for Carers, Partners, Family and Friends

My ‘Logical List’ of reasons to avoid/reduce my self-harm

If you struggle with self-harm you are not alone. It is a behavour that is often misunderstood and requires more sensitive treatment from health care professionals. When I feel the urge come on, I quickly think or look at this list to remind me that self-harming also has its consequences. If you are someone who struggles with mental health issues I encourage you to develop … Continue reading My ‘Logical List’ of reasons to avoid/reduce my self-harm

From dependant to independent – Creating your own Identity

It’s time to go it alone – strategies to go from co-dependence to independence My whole life I’ve wanted connections. To be liked. To be someone’s best friend and to never be alone. The danger with this is that I’ve moved from one dependant relationship to another dependent relationship my whole life. Never having my own identity. For a year now I’ve been mourning the … Continue reading From dependant to independent – Creating your own Identity

DRIVING, SAFETY AND SELF HARM 

Driving is a such an important task for live a life connected to the community. However it requires a lot of energy, concentration, planning and mutitasking. Things that people with mental health conditions struggle with. Here are some strategies I have used to help me get back into driving, and also manage my impulsive behaviours. First getting back into driving. ✅ Supervision first. My husband started … Continue reading DRIVING, SAFETY AND SELF HARM