My distress checklist for Carers, Partners, Family and Friends

Being in a relationship with someone who has BPD is hard. It requires a lot of thinking on your feet. A lot of open communication and forgiveness on both sides.
I frequently get angry at my husband when he says or does something that is triggering for me. It takes a lot of trial and error to work out those triggers. It takes understanding that “silly triggers” such as him “slamming the microwave door” can send me into the flight, fight or freeze mode. In these situations, my husband and I use this framework to know what to do next. I have also sent this framework to several loved ones so they too are knowledgeable in helping someone in distress. Continue reading My distress checklist for Carers, Partners, Family and Friends

Mental illness and the Weather – Coping with the changes

The weather is a common trigger for people with mental health difficulties. For some, summer can be really tough as it means wearing short sleeves, or overheating in long ones; it means more social activities, and longer days. For some, winter is really tough. I know my mental health is worse in winter; I feel trapped by the snow, the cold makes my scars hurt, … Continue reading Mental illness and the Weather – Coping with the changes

Assistance Dogs 🐶 your questions answered

Three years ago Lily came into our lives. You changed us, are healing us, energising us, protecting u, loving us and have saved us. A dogs purpose knows no bounds. Please watch my video Assistance Dogs – Your Questions Answered Please note: Service dogs can not be patted or interacted with. By doing so you are preventing them from doing their trained medical job.  If you … Continue reading Assistance Dogs 🐶 your questions answered

“You should be locked up and the key thrown away”

Trigger Warning Two weeks ago, I was confronted by a fellow Aussie. He told me “That I am crazy and, should be locked up with the key thrown away”. Initially, when I read the comments it felt like my soul had just been trampled on. And I started to question myself. AM I? SHOULD I BE LOCKED UP? Moments later I felt a deep sadness … Continue reading “You should be locked up and the key thrown away”

Occupational Therapy and the PD Stigma

This is an open letter to colleagues far and wide, in the UK and across the pond. With an estimated 1 in 4 adults having a diagnosable mental health condition, chances are not only will a portion of your caseload have a mental illness, but there’s odds that so will some of your colleagues. I am 1 in 4. You would think that, given our … Continue reading Occupational Therapy and the PD Stigma