My distress checklist for Carers, Partners, Family and Friends

Being in a relationship with someone who has BPD is hard. It requires a lot of thinking on your feet. A lot of open communication and forgiveness on both sides.
I frequently get angry at my husband when he says or does something that is triggering for me. It takes a lot of trial and error to work out those triggers. It takes understanding that “silly triggers” such as him “slamming the microwave door” can send me into the flight, fight or freeze mode. In these situations, my husband and I use this framework to know what to do next. I have also sent this framework to several loved ones so they too are knowledgeable in helping someone in distress. Continue reading My distress checklist for Carers, Partners, Family and Friends

Keep shining

When life is constantly throwing things your way, people around you seem to be letting you down, you feel like the entire world is against you. It can be so difficult and it is so easy to channel your emotions through anger and frustration, and to put up a wall that protects you against all of these terrible things going on around you. That’s completely … Continue reading Keep shining

My ‘Logical List’ of reasons to avoid/reduce my self-harm

If you struggle with self-harm you are not alone. It is a behavour that is often misunderstood and requires more sensitive treatment from health care professionals. When I feel the urge come on, I quickly think or look at this list to remind me that self-harming also has its consequences. If you are someone who struggles with mental health issues I encourage you to develop … Continue reading My ‘Logical List’ of reasons to avoid/reduce my self-harm

How to be friends with a borderline

Today on my newsfeed was an image about International Friendship Day. Only several hours before I had been writing a letter to a friend explaining how they had hurt me. A letter that was written for therapeutic reasons, rather than the intention of sending it. After seeing this message regarding International Friendship Day I broke down. Here I was writing about ending a friendship on … Continue reading How to be friends with a borderline

Helpful tips for exercising when depressed

During my low periods exercising, particularly in winter is exceptionally hard. If you are like me, my ideal exercise routine involves exercising inside where no one sees or hear me. Perhaps you are like me and you are experiencing back pain, or maybe another disability or added pressures of caring for another…lets be honest, exercising is hard.Unfortunately, lack of exercise places people with mental illness … Continue reading Helpful tips for exercising when depressed